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Hi, i'm Bryony Emma and after years in the corporate world, feeling overwhelmed, stressed and anxious, i left this all behind. I reunited my spiritual tool belt to heal my life and stop relying on the outside world to make me feel happy. During my years of spiritual practices to connect with self care and self love, i was able to heal and awaken the power within me, and now I share this with other women just like you. There is no better time to take back control of your energy and heal so you can live the life you know you desire. All you need is a like minded community, a little strategy and someone to show you the way. This show is dedicated to how I did it and how you can too. If you want to start shifting your energy now, download my free Crystal Fang Shui guide in the link in the show notes. But for now, hit subscribe and let's dive in.
Hello, beautiful souls, welcome back to crystal clear transformation. I'm Bryony and my your host, and today we are talking about my ADHD diagnosis. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 37. So it's a late diagnosis, but common for a lot of people around my age. So let me take you back to the beginning of what led to this ADHD diagnosis, and it really does take me right back to my childhood. I always felt like I was different and I struggled to sit still and I struggled to read social cues and I struggled to do other things that perhaps other kids felt was normal. So, consequently, i had difficult interactions with adults and with kids from a very young age. In primary school, i got picked on a lot and consequently, i retaliated because of how much it hurt me that I was being rejected by little kids and being hurt by little kids. If you haven't listened to my story about how I got here, you can go back and listen to that episode to get a little bit more information about my story and my background. And even through high school, i remember being extremely bored, so I was either falling asleep or I was getting in trouble when I was in class and I found it really hard to focus and keep my attention on things that didn't interest me 100%.
And now that I look back at that, these are all indicators about my ADHD And there's a couple of ways that we can look at this. We can look at it from a medical model and a diagnostic model and we can look at it from a spiritual perspective, and you can look at it from either way. I tend to look at it from both ways. I don't like to label because I think they're just labels, and if I look at it from a spiritual perspective, i guess I look at it that we're just different, we're open, we see the world from a different perspective, we see things differently to other people and we're more in tune with the spiritual realm and the spiritual world around us and more sensitive to the energies of the world, and that makes us not neurotypical in the medical model's view.
So what led to me going to get my diagnosis at 37 years old was that I have a son with ADHD and he got diagnosed with ADHD when he was 6. And he was like a mirror to me. I was watching him behave and I was looking at him and I was thinking, gosh, i remember being like that and I remember feeling like that And I remember the things that were happening to him, happening to me, and I also was completely and utterly triggered by him. His behaviour would send me into fight or flight and I would freeze and I wouldn't know what to do or I would end up yelling because I was in fight or flight. And this is what led me to get my ADHD diagnosis.
And what the psychiatrist said to me was that people your age often went undiagnosed. One because it wasn't something that they spoke about back then. There was no such thing as autism or ADHD. When I was a kid And you were just labelled as naughty. You were just labelled as the naughty kid that couldn't sit still, or the naughty kid that couldn't focus, or the naughty kid that was just misbehaving all the time, and that was the reputation that I ended up with. I was the naughty kid and I was the not nice person. And he said to me that people your age often went undiagnosed because you were from a middle class family, you went to a private school and you had the support around you that enabled you to learn a set of behaviours That was socially acceptable and enabled you to basically survive your environment, and that is incredibly accurate.
I spent my life learning what was socially appropriate, what behaviours were appropriate and how people wanted me to behave, and I exhausted myself every day. At school. I exhausted myself socially right through my teenage years and my 20s, trying to read people and work out what preconceptions they had made of me And then try to either change their preconceptions because their preconceptions were negative, so I tried to change them and convince them that I was likeable and that I was a nice person Or I tried to live up to what they saw me as. So they saw me as the bubbly, confident person, always having fun, and I would try to live up to that And this was incredibly exhausting. So in the medical model, this is called masking and this is a very prominent feature of ADHD and it's also a really prominent feature of high functioning autism.
And I became really good at this, became really good at masking and trying to be what people wanted me to be. And the downside of this was that when I would come out of social situations and I was masking and putting on a show about how I was supposed to be, i would come away extremely exhausted and energetically drained, and this is what led me to my diagnosis at 37 and what led to my emotional breakdown at 40 and what led to me rebuilding myself spiritually, emotionally and physically from that age and led me to be here with you completely transformed. So the reason that I'm talking about this today is because I know there's a lot of people out there that will be able to relate to some of these things, and I wanted to share with you that this journey of acceptance and this journey of healing is 100% achievable. And I've spoken before about my journey in healing and all of the tools that I use every day to thrive with my ADHD and to thrive with a child with ADHD and to thrive with the past hurts and the past traumas that I've experienced. And I talk more about that in my crystal clear transformation program, where you can learn everything that I do, including working with crystals, to completely transform your mindset and heal and thrive instead of survive your life, because that's what I was doing in that space right through my teenage years, right through my 20s and my 30s I was surviving, i was using those tools, or we are using those skills that I had learnt and pulling on them to try to fit them into the situations that I thought they were appropriate, and I was surviving. It was like treading water and I was spending my time in overwhelm and burnout. I wasn't being the mother that I wanted to be, i wasn't being the wife I wanted to be and I wasn't being the friend that I wanted to be.
And it wasn't until I surrendered. I took radical responsibility for my emotions, i turned my energy towards my crystals for healing and guidance and I transformed my spiritual tool belts so that I could thrive in my life. So, as I was saying, i often found a difficult to concentrate on tasks and I noticed that I wasn't the same as everybody else. I forgot important things, i misplaced things, i found it hard to concentrate at school and I was extremely anxious. And these were some of the patterns that I later in life recognised, when I had my son and he was mirroring back to me these things that I too had struggled with in my life. And this is when I began to dive into the world of holistic approaches and embark on a spiritual journey. And through this I discovered that nourishing my body and my mind and my soul was completely non-negotiable and vital in finding balance within this medical diagnosis and this spiritual diagnosis.
So one of the first things that I recognised that I had to do was I had to pay attention to a couple of things and it wasn't just one thing that was going to change me and over a period of time I tooled up and I realised that I needed to take control of the food that I was putting into my body. I needed to take control of the spiritual side of my body and I needed to move my body, and it was a combination of all of these things that led me to my own crystal clear transformation. I needed to be very particular about the food that I was putting into my body.
I needed to eat healthy, no processed food, and I don't stick to that 100%. I'm human, like everybody else. My favourite thing in the world is chocolate. So chocolate and ice cream and pizza I am completely powerless against. So I don't stick to that and I allow myself cheat days, but most of the time I make sure that I'm not eating too much sugar and I'm not eating processed foods, because those things affect my mind and my ability to cope on this plane, in this life, in this earthly experience, and I needed to take time for myself. My self care was the number one thing that needed to take priority over everything else, or I wasn't going to be able to perform in my job. I wasn't going to be able to perform as a mother, i wasn't going to be able to perform as a wife And I say perform, that's the wrong word, i don't want to use that word. I wasn't able to be who I wanted to be in those areas of my life And I had to take radical responsibility for my own self care, because before that I wasn't looking after myself. You know, i was trying to live up to the outside world's opinion of me That I was tall, that I was skinny, that I had it all together, that I had the perfect life and the perfect family And I was always happy in this and that and the other. And that just wasn't the truth. Behind closed doors, i was depressed, i hated my body, i hated my mind. I had extreme self loathing going on.
I was having panic attacks all the time and didn't want to be here, and that was the reality that was going on behind this masking. So, at the age of 40, i turned around and I said enough is enough. No one is coming to save me. There is no quick fix. I need to take care of myself, and this is when my healthy eating became the cornerstone of my daily routine And I started to sweat. I had to move my body every day, whether that be doing a high intensity workout one day and a walk on the beach the next day and a yoga the next day. I needed to move my body because on the days that I wasn't moving my body, i was agitated And I was like, oh, do you know what? I just don't feel good. Today, i'm a bit uncomfortable. As soon as I had gone for a walk or I had exercised, i was back on my path that I wanted to be on and feeling the way that I wanted to feel. Exercise became such an essential part of managing my ADHD symptoms And it helped to release any excess energy and improve my overall mental clarity, and I noticed such a huge significance around my ability to cope with challenging situations And my ability to stay focused and stay organised. Because I was making these healthy choices, i was getting fewer energy crashes, i was getting less brain fog And it was helping me to become more present.
I was trying to reduce my impulsive reactions to people and to make better decisions and really boost my mood. And the other thing, of course, was turning to my crystals. I began to activate crystals daily, whether that was with my jewellery or something that I was carrying around, i was activating that crystal to support me through my day, and the difference, just by adding a crystal to all of those things, was quite profound The protection from other people's energy. Being so spiritually open, being neurodiverse, activating a crystal for protection, activating a crystal for support, was so incredibly powerful and it made such a huge difference to me and to my energy and to the way that I felt in my daily routine. The way that I did this was I created my own unique blueprint, and this is something that we go over in the crystal clear transformation program is creating your own blueprint by setting your intentions, committing to yourself, getting an accountability. Buddy, how long are you going to spend on yourself? What is the intention for your sessions? Selecting a crystal that you're going to work with and selecting three to five other tools that you want to incorporate into your ritual. That is going to create consistency and it's going to create habit that benefits you in astronomical ways, creating a sacred space, whether this be a whole room, whether this be a cupboard or a drawer, creating your sacred space, and then pulling all of those elements together with your accountability buddy, so that you have got someone that is cheering you on, that is on your in your corner and encouraging you to eat healthy, to exercise, to do the meditation, to care for yourself so you can care for everyone else. So, if you are relating to some of the things that I'm talking about, you're not alone.
You can go and talk to a psychiatrist or your doctor and ask for an ADHD diagnosis if you want to go down the medical model, or you can simply understand that you just need to do a little more self-care and really care for yourself, because you are an extremely open human being and you need to do the work and look inside and heal, and you need to create ritual in your life. You need to create routine in your life so that you care and nurture yourself, so that you can thrive in this life. So you are not alone in this journey. I encourage you to reach out to a healthcare professional or to seek out some energetic healers, to dive deep into your own spiritual journey and healing. And, of course, the crystal clear transformation program is there to give you the foundation and the steps and the community to hold your hand along a journey just like this. So thank you for joining me in another episode of crystal clear transformation. I look forward to seeing you in the next episode.
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The interpretation of dreams by dream experts may be almost as old as dreaming itself. We know that all humans, and many animals, dream every night, and humans have always been fascinated to learn what causes dreams and what they mean.
The interpretation of dreams dates back at least as far as 3000-4000 B.C. We know that because the interpretations of dreams were recorded in permanent form on clay tablets. It is thought that many primitive peoples were unable to initially distinguish between the real world and the dream world. In many cases, these people looked upon the dream world as an extension of the physical world around them, and in many cases they saw the dream world as more powerful than the waking one.
Dream interpretation was such an important field to the ancient Greek and Roman world that dream interpreters often accompanied generals and other military leaders into battles. Dreams were taken extremely seriously, and the Greeks and Romans in particular often viewed dreams as messages sent by their Gods.
Dreams also had a religious context in ancient Egypt, and priests there doubled as dream interpreters. Dreams were among the items recorded by the ancient Egyptians in the form of hieroglyphics. Those whose dreams were especially vivid or significant were thought to be blessed and were given special status in these ancient societies. Likewise, people who were able to interpret dreams were thought to receive these gifts directly from the gods, and they enjoyed a special status in society as well.
There are over 700 mentions of dreams in the bible, and people in biblical times saw dreams as very significant. Dreams and their interpretations are mentioned in many of the most significant books of the bible and other holy scriptures.
In many cases, dreams were often seen as a form of prophecy. People often interpreted their dreams as omens or warnings, and adjusted their activities accordingly. Dreams were often thought of as omens from deities, as messages from spirits, or as messages from departed souls. In some cases, dreams were even seen as the work of demons, meant to confuse and trouble the dreamer.
Dreams were so important that they often dictated the actions of political and military leaders, affecting everything from the prosecution of a battle to the outcome of a political decision. Dreams were also thought to provide vital clues to healers, and they were used in the diagnosis and treatment of all manners of illness.
Dreaming was often looked upon by indigenous peoples as a way to commune directly with Gods and Spirits, and dreams are still used in this way by cultures around the world. Many people believed, and some still do, that during dream sleep the soul leaves the body and communes with the spirit world.
The Chinese were one culture who believed that the soul left the body each night during dream sleep. They believed that if the dreamer were suddenly awakened the soul may not be able to return to the body. That is why some Chinese are still leery about the use of alarm clocks. This is just one example of how ancient legends can linger into the modern world.
Some Indigenous Mexican and Native American societies share this ancient view of the importance of dreams, and share the belief in a separate dimension that is visited during dream sleep. These people believed that their departed ancestors lived in their dreams, and that they were able to take forms like animals and plants. Thus dreams were seen as a way for them to commune with their recent and ancient ancestors, and to gather wisdom and knowledge that would serve them in their waking lives. Dreams were also seen as ways to gather information about their purpose or mission in life.
The respect for dreams changed radically early in the 19th century, and dreams in that era were often dismissed as reactions to anxiety, outside noises or even bad food and indigestion. During this period of time, dreams were thought to have no meaning at all, and interest in dream interpretation all but evaporated. This all changed, however, with the arrival of Sigmund Freud later in the 19th century. Sigmund Freud stunned the world of psychiatry by stressing the importance of dreams, and he revived the once dead art of dream interpretation.
10 Best Crystals for Dream Work, Dream Recall, and Lucid Dreaming
Different crystals can be used for various purposes regarding dreaming, from recall to lucidity. Here are 10 of the most powerful crystals for dream work.
Amethyst is known as a stone of peace and repose. It is the perfect thing to use before bed because it calms the nervous system and the mind. Additionally, it is said to encourage sound sleep and pleasant dreams.
Amethyst is a “stone of spirituality and contentment,” making it perfect for those who wish to explore the mystical side of dreaming.
Moonstones have been used for centuries to promote restful sleep and facilitate lucid dreaming. According to tradition, moonstones are connected to the moon and feminine energy.
They’re said to help protect against negative dream states and bring about positive, restful dreams. Moonstones are often used in crystal healing practices and are believed to promote inner peace and harmony.
Many people use moonstones as part of their nightly ritual. They do so by placing the moonstones on their nightstands or under their pillows before sleeping. And, if you’re looking for a way to promote restful sleep and facilitate lucid dreaming, consider incorporating a moonstone into your nighttime routine.
Celestite is a stone that has been used for centuries to promote tranquility and relaxation. It is said to ease anxiety and help people to sleep peacefully. Celestite is also believed to have a calming effect on the mind and emotions.
Many people keep a piece of celestite near their bed or in their office to help them stay calm and focused during the day. Celestite is available in various colors, but the most popular ones are blue and white.
Stone is often used in jewelry, making it a beautiful addition to any collection.
For centuries, lapis lazuli has been revered for its mystical properties. This beautiful blue stone enhances psychic abilities, facilitates astral travel, and promotes out-of-body experiences.
In ancient times, it was used as a talisman to ward off evil spirits and protect against negative energy. Today, lapis lazuli is still prized for its ability to connect us with the spiritual realm.
Many people use it in meditation and visualization practices to help them access higher levels of consciousness. When exploring the vast landscape of your inner world, lapis lazuli can be a powerful ally.
In terms of dreaming, lapis lazuli is said to encourage vivid dreams and deep insight into the hidden meaning of dreams.
Tiger’s eye is said to have a powerful effect on the dream state. When used before sleep, it sharpens one’s focus and increases the intensity of dream experiences.
Many believe the tiger’s eye can better help them understand their dreams’ messages. In addition, some believe that the stone can also be used to ward off bad dreams and nightmares. Tiger’s eye is also known as a “dream enhancer” because it can sharpen one’s focus and incre
ase intensity during dreaming experiences.
Malachite is a stone that has been used for centuries for its healing properties. It is said to assist in releasing negative patterns, behaviors, and belief systems that no longer serve us.
In terms of dreaming, malachite can help release trauma or negativity that may hinder our ability to have positive dream experiences. Dreams are a way for our subconscious to process information and sort emotions.
If we cannot process these emotions in our waking life, they can manifest as nightmares or troubling dreams. Malachite can help to release these emotions to have peaceful, positive dreams.
For centuries, obsidian has been prized for its protective qualities. It is said to shield the wearer from negative energy and allow them to explore the depths of their subconscious mind without fear.
In the dream state, obsidian can help to keep negative energy at bay, making it an ideal stone for those who wish to delve into the hidden aspects of their psyche. It is also said to promote creativity and problem-solving, as well as to boost self-confidence and self-esteem.
It can also cleanse your auric field and protect you from an astral attack. It can also be a boon if you want to experience a lucid dream.
Hematite is a powerful grounding stone that fosters mental clarity, focus, and concentration. In the dream state, hematite can be used to steadfastly ground the dreamer and prevent them from becoming lost in the astral plane.
Hematite can also improve the dreaming mind’s memory and information-processing capacity. In addition to its cognitive benefits, hematite is also said to help manage stress and anxiety.
Fluorite is a beautiful stone that can be found in a wide range of colors, from pale greens and blues to deep purples and oranges. While it is lovely, fluorite is also prized for its metaphysical properties.
It is said to be a stone of mental agility, helping one to think more clearly and logically. Fluorite is also believed to promote emotional balance, helping to calm and focus the mind.
In the dream state, fluorite can decrease distractions from external sources that may interfere with having positive dream experiences. By evening out the chaotic energy of the dreaming mind, fluorite allows for more restful sleep and enriching dreams.
Jade is a stunning green stone that cultures have long cherished. Often associated with wisdom, compassion, and abundance, jade is thought to promote balance and harmony.
In the dream state, jade can attract positive energy and helpful guides that may assist in obtaining answers or solutions from our dreams. When placed under the pillow or on the nightstand, jade can help encourage restful sleep and vivid dreaming.
Below, learn the best day in February, astrologically, for your zodiac sign, and how you can expect it to come to fruition.
Best day: February 16
You could feel positively abundant, as if you’re “glistening with a sense of success,” on this day, Aries—and others in your sphere are bound to notice, says Gailing. That’s all thanks to your planetary ruler, fiery Mars, joining forces with love planet Venus in your 10th house of career and reputation. “This is a day to recognize your own gifts and not to overlook how much goodness you bring to your clients, your company, or your team,” says Gailing. And yes, if it feels right, this is also the time to make the big career move or ask for that raise or promotion.
Best day: February 9
Taurus, meet Taurus. On this day, you can expect to feel like your deepest, truest self, as the moon in your sign unites with the destiny-oriented north node, also in your sign. “Today may be a very powerful day for getting glimpses of who you really are and how you want to carve your life’s path,” says Gailing. As a result, you could have the sense that the things you’re doing or thinking are very much in alignment with your greater purpose—or if not, you could gain clarity into how you might need to make a life change in order for that to be the case.
Best day: February 3
Clarity and ease of communication are yours on this day, Gemini. With your planetary ruler, messenger Mercury, stationing direct and highlighting your eighth house of collaborations, intimacy, and taboo subjects, you could gain a deeper understanding of where you stand and how you feel about an intimate relationship, in particular, says Gailing. You’ll be able to voice any fears that have held you back from being truly vulnerable and express eloquently what you need from a partnership to feel secure.
Best day: February 1
An opportunity for a more fulfilling partnership could be on the horizon, Cancer. With this day’s new moon activating your eighth house of intimate relations, you could gain insight into your connection with someone who you “get in bed with,” says Gailing. “Perhaps that manifests literally, and your focus is on your sex life, and how to bust through an intimacy block that you and your partner may have recently encountered. Or, maybe it happens figuratively, and your attention is on a business partner or someone with whom you’ve pooled your resources,” she says. In either case, this day could illuminate how you might take the next step forward with this person.
Best day: February 4
Your romantic partnership(s) or your love life, more broadly, is your source of strength today, Leo. As the sun, your planetary ruler, joins Saturn in your seventh house of partnerships, you could either feel empowered by the foundation of trust and integrity you’ve built with a significant other, or alternatively, just as empowered to find or rebuild that kind of foundation by way of a meaningful conversation, says Gailing. In both cases, it’s a romantic relationship (current or prospective) in your life that’ll serve as a springboard for you to act and feel like your most radiant self today.
Best day: February 3
Expect a happy rush of creativity, Virgo. As with Gemini, your best day in February, astrologically, will arrive when Mercury (also your planetary ruler) stations direct on February 3—but in this case, it’s activating your fifth house of self-expression and passion. “If you’ve been at an impasse the past couple weeks in terms of a creative project, family issue, or romantic desire, then this shift is good news: Today, you may begin to find the traction that’ll help you move forward,” says Gailing, adding: “It’s a great day to do whatever activity makes your heart sing.”
Best day: February 24
You’re in a state of ease and flow today, Libra. With your planetary ruler, love-oriented Venus, forming a positive sextile with dreamy Neptune in your sixth house of health and everyday rituals, you’re feeling comfortable at home and compassionate toward yourself and others. “You may find yourself wanting to help a friend or even a complete stranger, or perhaps lingering while doing a self-care activity of your own,” says Gailing. “Maybe you spend a few more minutes in a bath, steep a pot of tea rather than going for your usual tea bag, or carve out more time to read on the couch.” Whatever you enjoy doing could feel especially luxurious on this day.
Best day: February 11
Words come easy for you on this day, Scorpio. In fact, you’re basically a communicative wiz, as your planetary ruler, transformative Pluto, connects with messenger Mercury in your third house of communication, neighbors, and nearby communities. “Don’t be surprised if you feel a sense of greater ease while working through an issue or getting down to the bottom of something that’s been challenging you for some time now,” says Gailing. “You could very well be able to capture the essence of a message you’ve been wanting to deliver, personally or professionally.”
Best day: February 17
As Jupiter is your planetary ruler, you won’t be surprised to learn that its aforementioned sextile with revolutionary Uranus will bring your best day in February—a day suited for expanding your horizons (as you’re already known to enjoy doing). “It’s a great day to experiment, meet new people, and try on different viewpoints for size,” says Gailing. “Do something that will have you going off the beaten bath and beating to your own drum.”
Best day: February 4
A return on an investment could be in the stars for you, Capricorn, as the radiant sun meets up with your planetary ruler, taskmaster Saturn, in your second house of resources, values, and money. “On this day, people may further recognize you for the authority that you are, appreciating all the gifts and skills you bring to the table,” says Gailing. As a result, they could be highly receptive to your ideas tied to maximizing profits or even your own worth.
Best day: February 14
Thanks to Mercury bouncing in and out of your sign during its recent retrograde transit, things may have felt a little mucky the past few weeks for you, Aquarius. But on this day, with Mercury once again moving forward in your sign (until March 9), the clouds begin to clear. “You’re likely to feel emboldened by more courage and clarity, which could offer you a greater sense of purpose and focus toward a new direction,” says Gailing. With loose ends tied up, you’ll feel as though you can finally move forward.
Best day: February 18
Say hello to your season, Pisces. With your birthday coming up soon—technically called your solar return in astrology, or when the sun returns to the place where it was when you were born—the universe is supporting you from all angles. “The stars will feel aligned, your inspiration will be elevated, and your compassionate heart could be even more open than usual,” says Gailing. Astrologically speaking, this really is your moment in the sun.