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I am so happy to be here with you again so today's episode is all about the regrets of the dying.

 Bronnie gathered these from the hundreds and hundreds and people that she has supported in their Journeys the other side each of these has really prominent pauses for reflection so I invite you to perhaps do that. Perhaps write these down and take time to reflect on those and even note down perhaps things that relate to what you're doing and that doesnt align with that particular regret.

 So lets go back to the top 5 regrets and I'll run through them and then we'll come back and just kind of breakdown each one of them.

 so the number one was I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself and not what others expected me 

  • I wish I hadn't worked so hard 
  • I wish I had the courage to express my feelings
  •  I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends 
  • I wish that I had let a happier 

Wow, as I said these are really poignant points to take away with you for reflection and take stock of.

So the first one, “I wish I had the courage to live the life true to myself and not to what others expected of me”, this is really really prominent for a lot of people I feel including myself in today's Age we are really trained to work really hard for others and do as we're told and work to the expectations of others instead of really taking the time to sit down and go, what is it I want in life what is it and I want from my life and at the end of my life what life, Or are you thinking, I wish I had lived a life more true to myself.

So invite you to time to reflect on this and write down the things that you aren't doing, that aren't aligning with the life that is true to yourself. Write down the things that you are doing and then write down the things that you want to do. What do you want to do in your life? what are the things that are going to line you to your true path?

 And then have a little bit of a think about the things that you can do two steps towards doing those things that align with the life that is true to yourself.

Number two was “I wish I can work so hard” and I think we all think about this in the saying that everybody uses a “work-life balance”, so I think we all think about this quite a lot.

We don't often take time to reflect on how we could make our work life balance a little bit better.  And we don't often take time to reflect on how we could make our work life balance a little bit better and work smarter not harder. So invite you again to write down those ways that you are working harder not smarter and write down some ways that you might be able to align the two of those things a little bit better than perhaps they are.

For myself, as you know if you listen to the podcast about my story, that I left my corporate job in 2021 to follow my passion which was the crystal stylist and now crystal clear transformations and that was exactly what I was doing working harder not smarter. I wasn't living a life that was true to myself so for me leaving my corporate job and following my passion which was taking steps towards those first 2 regrets. So I'm still in the process of learning how to do a work-life balance better.

Number 3,  “I wish I had the courage to express my feelings”.  This is so hard for a lot of people. I don't personally have this problem I am such an extrovert and my heart is on my sleeve so I'm always expressing my feelings to people. I think for me the version of this would be to be honest that sometimes it can come across maybe in the wrong way so for me this is a how to be a little bit more tactical about the way that I express my feelings. Because I would like to get better at expressing my feelings in a positive way not in a blurting it all out. For some people expressing their feelings is like, they could never imagine such a thing, so maybe the first step towards expressing your feelings is actually just writing them down. At the end of the day a bit of a brain dump about today, how did i  feel about this that happened ? How did I feel about that that happened?  It can be the first steps to you learning how to express your your emotions and your feelings for and towards others. 

You can always start by writing them down and then burn in them and releasing them to Universe because that energy will have a way of working itself into the universe for your greater good.

So the next one was “i wish i had stayed in touch with my friends”.

Now this is something that is extremely important because we can't do this journey alone. We can't do this earthly experience alone and this is something we still haven't got, especially here in Australia, in particular, we don't really have it's something that we're starting to move back towards and realise that we need in so many ways in birthing in raising children in emotional healing. We need friends and family like-minded individuals around us community to support us on our journey so staying in touch with your friends is extremely important.

I think the biggest barrier for women in particular about staying in touch with friends is that we don't want to burden anyone. We've been moulded to think that we need to be tough and we need to do it all on our own and this just isn't true. 

You need to be able to reach out and ask for help and express your feelings and tell people how you're feeling.

 When I turn 40 I just couldn't keep up the facade anymore, I couldn't where the mask anymore. And when people ask me how I was a had to say I'm not good, I'm not good, I'm in a moment in my life where I'm actually not good and had to be completely honest with people. And that was completely liberating and freeing, because from that moment on if I was having a bad day I could say to my friend's having a really bad day I'm not ok today, and by the end of having that conversation with my friends just by saying I'm not ok, I feel so much better having release that emotion and that feeling with my friends to them be able to energetically move on from that moment. It might not go away, I might not forget about it, but I certainly feel supported loved and cared for and see just by having having moved into that conversation. You might just do it a little bit and then back away and that's ok, but just start to do that. Start to reach out to your friends and hold them close don't push them away because you're not coping emotionally, because that is only going to isolate you more. You are going to find your freedom by connecting with your friends and family when you are not feeling ok . So that is a huge one for me and I encourage you to do this in the new year.

The last one was which attaches itself to all the others so beautifully is, “I wish that I had let myself be happier”.  And for me this is huge because I don't let myself be happy a lot of the time. I've got things that are going on in my life, stress and Trauma, things that all of us have.  And we have these brain patterns and these neural pathways that are so well travelled, we don't let ourselves be happy it's almost like those neural pathways run our lives and we wake up in the morning and it's like when you look for something to not be happy about. This is something that I work extremely hard on shifting because it's probably one of those things that a lot of us struggle with shifting the most so it's a good one to put on your list for this year. Maybe even to start with just one thing many of us in the new year will end up just giving up, throwing our hands up in the air and I really don't want to do that. So it's important that we focus on one thing, just one thing we want to change. Not exercise, diet, meditation, walks…..not everything altogether, just one thing. Maybe just letting yourself have more moments of happiness each day is a really really good first step. The way that we can do that is just I connecting with another person or watching a funny video or simply making yourself laugh. So I encourage you to maybe take that step this year.

 So That is the five greatest regrets of the dying. I hope this episode has resonated with you Thank you so much for spending this time with me beautiful soul I am so excited to walk alongside you on this healing journey.

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Bryony Emma xx


January 10, 2023 — The Crystal Stylist

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